I'm going to give my disclaimer one more time, but this will probably be the last time. These are my thoughts, based on my life and related experiences; if you don't like them...go read something else. If you insist on reading, feel free to comment. :)
Lately, I have been coming across quite a few men who are married but pursuing other people, myself included. As a woman who hopes to be married one day, that's not the kind of energy that I want in my camp. I've been approached by many "unhappily" married men (they are so unhappy that they are telling their wives that they love them every morning) and I see them as pathetic. He spent money on a ceremony, gave his name to this woman, maybe even had a few children, but is looking for something else? He might need to go see a pastor, a therapist or into the woods to meditate so he can get his mind right. Or maybe his wife needs to tie him up and put him out of his misery...I'm just saying.
I know that I will probably ruffle a few feathers with the
long-term mistresses, but why would you want to date someone who can't
keep a vow before GOD? Every good woman deserves a man who is faithful
and will be true to only her, but you can't expect that when you are
sleeping with, dating, or sharing a "secret" family with someone else's
husband. Depending on what state you live in, you might get sued.
Don't try to use "LOVE" as an excuse for your bad behavior. We all have been known to conveniently forget that "love" is just a natural progression of emotions. If you are in the company of someone who has appealing qualities long enough, you will began to develop feelings for that person. If you have sex with that person, those feelings get deeper and then you end up in a big pile of mess. If the sex is mid-blowing, then you are liable to start rationalizing your actions through your orgasms and you are in trouble.
Forget what people say about "going with the flow. Be responsible and make informed decisions about and for your heart. If you meet a guy that seems perfect but has a "situation," he's not the man for you. Go the other way and remove yourself from the situation completely. Do not be his "friend," do not inbox him on Facebook, do not listen to him vent about his wife, do not go to lunch with him, hell don't even give him your phone number (that part was for me). You CAN NOT tap dance on ice in stilettos and expect not to fall in. It's not worth the risk; you could drown.
Don't try to use "LOVE" as an excuse for your bad behavior. We all have been known to conveniently forget that "love" is just a natural progression of emotions. If you are in the company of someone who has appealing qualities long enough, you will began to develop feelings for that person. If you have sex with that person, those feelings get deeper and then you end up in a big pile of mess. If the sex is mid-blowing, then you are liable to start rationalizing your actions through your orgasms and you are in trouble.
Forget what people say about "going with the flow. Be responsible and make informed decisions about and for your heart. If you meet a guy that seems perfect but has a "situation," he's not the man for you. Go the other way and remove yourself from the situation completely. Do not be his "friend," do not inbox him on Facebook, do not listen to him vent about his wife, do not go to lunch with him, hell don't even give him your phone number (that part was for me). You CAN NOT tap dance on ice in stilettos and expect not to fall in. It's not worth the risk; you could drown.
My point is that you should never invest more of yourself into a situation than the other party is investing. A whole woman deserves a whole man and if you aren't whole, you need to focus on becoming whole first. I recommend JESUS, therapy, meditation, Las Vegas, whatever you need to be the amazing woman that you are. You owe it to yourself.
Let's be honest; there is no amount of fellatio, p- popping, threesomes or patience that will get that man to leave his wife. And if he did, you would then become the "*insert commonly used adjective here* wife that he couldn't stand and would soon began to step out on. Men are creatures of habit so once this man that you've "stolen" gets tired of you, he will be looking for his next woman. You're worth so much more than that ;)
Let's be honest; there is no amount of fellatio, p- popping, threesomes or patience that will get that man to leave his wife. And if he did, you would then become the "*insert commonly used adjective here* wife that he couldn't stand and would soon began to step out on. Men are creatures of habit so once this man that you've "stolen" gets tired of you, he will be looking for his next woman. You're worth so much more than that ;)
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